A random bit today.
I haven’t been completely random in a while and that’s just wrong. I think about random things all the time and it’s nice to be able to express them once in a while. If you're not up for my random thoughts and feelings about the “book” you’ve been warned…
So facebook. I love blogging and have had a blast with my blog and blog friends for the last few years so I thought I would give facebook a whirl a few months ago. Not everyone has a blog and most of my friends and family don’t read mine (blasphemy! or blessing?) so I thought meh- why not?
I was lost from the very beginning. I must have been doing it wrong. Something about invites, accepting “friends”, ignoring “friends”, “friend” suggestions, what is a wall and why is everyone writing on them- graffiti?, profiles, fans, who’s chatting with who, submitting dna samples- okay so I made that one up but it’s not far off the mark, the list goes on and on. Then on top of all that other stuff someone started hiding daggers (?) and the mafia was warring. Someone gifted me a dog and a lost cow found it’s way from some farm. I started to feel like I was lost in some spanish version of “Days of our Lives”. I had no idea what was happening and I didn’t have the time to figure it out! That’s where I start to plead the “I have 5 kids so I don’t have any time at all” card.
I tried, I really did. I tried to keep up for a month. I was doing fairly well until I started to feel like it would take me all night every day to scribble on walls, comment on photos, figure out what to do with a computer dog, accept new friends and so forth because for the most part I really did know those people. They would know if I was slacking. They would know that I didn’t want to be their friend if I didn’t accept. They would know if I didn’t want their dog or dagger. They would see that I was online but ignoring the little chat box. I don’t want to be that person. I don’t want to look at my computer like it’s a treadmill. If I can’t give something 100% I don’t want to do it at all.
Blogging is safe and less pressure. No one comes to hunt for me, or at least it’s not public when they do. No one gifts me random animals unless they are stuffed and come in the mail. No one can see when I’m online or when I’m not- I like a little anonymity. No one will see that I’m only giving 20% because that’s all I have.
So, I deleted my facebook account and I’m pleading the five kids card. It wa making me feel like a loser. I hope I didn’t offend anyone when I shut it down. Nothing against those of you who understand it and love it, nothing wrong with that! May your farms flourish and friend box grow larger ;). I blog and hide and that’s all I can do. That’s all I want to do so facebook just isn’t for me.
Aaannndd that’s the end of random for today.





17 comments:
I just joined Facebook a few weeks ago. It is set up differently than I thought it would be. I like seeing everyone's photos. But I have been selective in friend invites because I don't want to read what every single person writes. I don't blame you for deleting your account. I love your blog!
You are so funny. I have a facebook account and have for a long time and still don't get it and really don't like it. Maybe I will also use the kids card.
Lol, I am the same. I have a facebook account, have for over 1 year, I think. And I still don't understand it or keep up with it!
I'm with you too! I got an account because a bunch of us from my graduating class found each other again and started emailing. So one of the guys set up a private group for us - next thing I know, I'm getting these invites - and yeah, what do you do? I don't want to know what you were thinking when you woke up at 2 and PLEASE leave my wall ALONE! I haven't deleted my account, but I NEVER get on. Blogging is my speed also!
:) Ann
yeah I'm over facebook...I was wasting alot of time...
I'm so glad there's another!
I really love the fact that I have no idea what you're talking about except....I have heard of facebook, but I just can't go there.
I support you whole heartedly.
You are hilarious. I agree completely about facebook..but I just ignore who I want, and let them think the worst of me. ;) I like it because I can find people I randomly thing, "I wonder whatever happened to..." about.
so true so so true. Facebook takes sooo much time and there is so much going on at once. I liked your random bit. Thanks
Great post! I have not, and will not, open a facebook account. I dabbled with Myspace back when it was the popular site. It all seems so fake to me. People who I see at the grocery store and walk by me without so much as a hello want to be my "friend". Strange.
I am comfortable right here in blog land too! So glad I'm not alone.
No pressure... By the way, you could have clicked on the bottom and gone " offline" that makes it so people don't even realize you are online and then you don't get the chat stuff. I never go online because of the same stuff.
I do both. But, I am RARELY in FB on the computer. I do it off my crackberry. Limited options, so I just read other people's updates and update my status and occassionally post an uber-cute picture of my son. That's it. I also have FB linked to my blog, so if someone is DYING to know what I'm doing NOW they can click and poof! they get a status update.
Totally funny! when I first joined fb I was addicted to all of the applications. . .then I stopped all of the insanity!!! I am still on fb but not involved in the applications. . or quizzes. I speak my mind & post links to things that are of interest to me but try to draw a line of not creating another "have to do this" on my To Do list (that is neverending. . .and i only have 3 kids!). Way to go to you for realizing the crazy of it all.
(Depending on the audience the following will either make me sound especially young or somewhat old...) I was a freshman in college the year facebook started. At that point, you had to have a college/ university e-mail address in order to sign up. In my opinion, it was a lot more safe and a lot more legit back then. I trusted facebook. It was a way to keep track of my friends. I would like to add that this was all before all of the terrible, time-wasting applications (all of which I reject except in the few-and-far-between moments of weakness I experience in which I accept something just to be nice). It was also before everybody and (quite literally) their mom (and MY mom- not that I hide things from her, but it's always just strange to get "poked" by your mother online) could get on and read everything. In my opinion, facebook has become a monster. I keep my account, mostly to be able to have contact with my friends whose e-mail addresses I lack (or who change them too frequently to keep track of). But it is a rare occasion indeed when I sign on to facebook without having first received an e-mail saying that so-and-so sent me something-or-other. And even then I usually wait until I've gotten a few of those before I actually go and clean out the cobwebs. Call me old fashioned, but I believe in real farm animals (and real friends). Despite my own lame and low-key involvement, I whole-heartedly support your decision to delete your facebook account. Especially if that means you will stay as dedicated as you are in your blog. Because I like it. :)
I like, the many other previous posters, so enjoy your blog and am glad you keep your random thoughts coming. Thank you, and maybe someday I will work on my personal FB addiction. Thank you for sharing yet again a little of your Chaos. It truly warms my heart.
I hear you... it's been a love/hate relationship, I must admit. Some days I want to totally unplug, then other days I think, "eh - it's just a social network"...
I will be honest, however - I ignore EVERRRRRRRY game invite and have become best friends with the 'Block This Application' or 'Hide this Application' because I don't give a rat's behind how someone scored on some game or whether they're a butterfly in their past life. It's been nice to not even receive those invites anymore or see them in the status updates. HA!
Welp - just stopped by for my random Everyday Chaos fix... you never disappoint. P.S. Loved the Jelly Fish - I can see why she got more candy!
I love this and agree wholeheartedly. As an owner of an Etsy shop, FB is supposed to be a HUGE marketing tool, but I don't know how to use it properly and, frankly, at age 55, I'm not too willing to learn. NOW what are your thoughts on TWITTER??? Can someone explain IT to me???
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